Couples therapy in Ballard, Seattle
not just a fix for your last fight — a new framework you’ll use for every fight after
you both admit you fight about “silly” stuff, but the arguments still seem to get heated…
you always say you’re gonna do it differently, but it feels the same every time.
You don’t know what to do, because you love your partner…
but for some reason you keep having the same fight and you can’t seem to figure out why…
it doesn’t have to stay this way
Couple conflict works in predictable patterns.
I help couples understand how conflict works so that they can:
change their mindset toward conflict & feel more empowered, capable, and confident
understand what’s actually going on when conflict gets heated
connect with each other through difficult conversations instead of fighting on separate teams
My name is Emily and I’m a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who has trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy and done focused work with couples for the last three years.
I work with couples who see others having the same fight again and again — slowly growing further apart and becoming resentful roommates instead of partners in-love —
and want to figure out how to do it differently.
You’ve talked about it, read the books, and tried new strategies. And now, you’re ready for some real support to make sustainable change in your relationship.
Services
Individual Therapy
Frequently Asked Questions
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Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a research-backed, attachment-based approach to couples counseling. It helps partners understand their emotions more deeply and recognize the emotional pattern driving their disconnection, so they can build a more secure connection.
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Yes! Emotionally Focused Therapy has been extensively researched and is based in attachment science. Research shows effectiveness in treating various kinds of couples and types of problems couples experience. In fact, ICEEFT's research summary notes that studies consistently show "excellent follow-up results," with some showing that "significant progress continues after therapy."
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In our first session, I'll get an overview of your relationship — what it's like now, and how it's been in the past. I'll guide us through questions that help me understand your story, so I can begin identifying the patterns keeping you stuck.
After that, I'll meet with each of you individually before we begin regular couples sessions. These sessions help me understand your personal history — your family background, past relationships, and experiences that shape how you show up with your partner now.
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Yes. EFT is built on the idea that couples get stuck in negative patterns that repeat. If it feels like you're having the same fight again and again, it's likely the same underlying pattern showing up in different forms. In EFT, I'll help you see what's really going on beneath the argument and connect with each other differently, so you can shift the pattern together.
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You can still make progress on your own. It's common for one partner to be ready before the other. EFT is built on the idea that both partners contribute to a cycle of disconnection, so individual sessions can help you understand your part in that cycle and change how you show up in your relationship.
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Yes. My office is in the Ballard neighborhood of Seattle, where I offer in-person couples therapy. I also offer virtual sessions for clients throughout Washington State.